Building Strong Relationships – Thoughts

“Apologizing does not mean that you’re wrong and the other person is right. It just means that you value your relationship more than your ego.”

A relationship is never about physical dimensions. Primarily it is measured by love, happiness, satisfaction, and a feeling of completeness. A relationship about parent-child, husband-wife, between friends, or any other relationship. But what if the relationship has tensions, pain, or jealousy. It is important to understand the core reason to have pain in any relationship. Why do people suffer most in their relationships?

People often believe that a relationship is about the exchange of gifts, words, and behavior. We usually feel that relations get strong by giving expensive gifts or touching words. But in reality, it is an exchange of energy between two souls. Thought is energy and this energy radiates what we thought for others. Be it negative or positive. In case you have negative thoughts for others, it radiates negative energy even though you keep saying positive words on your face. In the longer run, both will feel frustration and pain with this kind of relationship. The impact of thought is greater. Your action is derived based on your thoughts. Hence thoughts play a vital role in the relationship and it is the foundation of our relationship. We cannot hide our thoughts and they radiate to people. The quality of thoughts we radiate a similar quality of thoughts generated in another person. Hence it is important to keep the focus on the foundations so let go in deeper at the thoughts levels and how its impacts our relationships.

When we are born, we are born with love, bliss, and purity. Then from where all hate, jealousy, or judging others with our limited knowledge develops. This all does not come from the outside world but our internal world from where all thoughts developed. It is all reflections of our internal thoughts to being proof ourselves better than others or compare ourselves with others. It is very important to understand that all these thoughts make us weak from the inside. It means we are not in control of ourselves. So everyone needs to work at the thoughts level.

The first step is to understand and love yourself. We need to understand how strong emotionally we are. When we are emotionally weak, our thoughts and behavior toward others become negative. We emit negative vibrations to others. We are unable to work with our stable minds and produce unexpected behavior which eventually results into weaken our relationships. It is important to take responsibility and stop the blame game in the relationship. Stop criticizing others for their mistakes, everyone do some mistakes in their life. So for healthy relations forgiveness is a very important quality. It is important to understand that behind any successful person, there are contributions from many people, therefore one must have gratitude for others. Forgiveness and gratitude played an important role in a healthy relationship. When we take personal responsibility for our emotions, we conserve energy and take responsibility to heal. Hence, stop blaming others and take responsibility.

Like the way, we take care of what we speak to others, we need to be careful about how we speak to ourselves. We are constantly listening to our inner conversation i.e. thoughts.

Finally, to make a relationship healthy, one must work on their thought process. The moment you can have thoughts of love and happiness, you will radiate positive vibes to others and you get similar behavior in return. The journey of self-transformation has to be checked in reference only to ourselves. No comparison with others. Just keep setting the target for yourself and keep comparing this transformation on regular basis. Keep appreciate yourself for the jour of transformation and you will get a healthy, lovable, genuine relationship. Wishing you good luck to work on your internal thoughts and have a healthy relationship.